The Cyber-Free `80s

Life was better then….

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Cyberbullying didn’t exist in the `80s

Here I was, driving down the street one afternoon. It was in a residential area, so luckily, the street wasn’t extremely busy at the time. Suddenly and without warning, a teenager jumped off the curb to cross the street without stopping to check for oncoming vehicles, and no, there was no cross walk either. Lucky for me, I was quick to react and hit my brakes in time. The youth didn’t even look up but kept on walking. He didn’t even twitch a muscle. Why was this such a strange event? Well, that’s because he had his smartphone glued to the front of his nose and nothing was going to interrupt him from reading whatever was so interesting that he forgot to pay attention to basic pedestrian safety. Uhummm….

In today’s day and age, owning a smartphone, texting, chatting, taking pictures and sharing everything about your day-to-day is considered normal. Let’s face it, even the president sends tweets! But then I experience the negative issues involved in all of this. I watch my own kids  show the same behaviors; always reaching for their smartphone and wanting to read who wrote what about whom so they can reply or comment immediately. Not to mention all the cyberbullying going on resulting in depression and self-harm and suicide. Parents are overwhelmed, not knowing how to deal with these serious situations. I come across articles about this topic every day, in magazines, newspapers and the internet. The increased need for child and teen psychiatrists has exploded because of all the mental abuse and cyberbullying  taking place all over the world. It does not, in my opinion, make this a very safe and joyful time for our children to grow up in. Nothing is private anymore. Children, teens, and of course, also adults, prefer to pass their time in a cyber world with that little screen stuck to their noses. I always joke with my daughter, telling her it would be less strenuous for her arm and hand if she just glued that thing to her nose! She always replies, “Oh, mom.”

Growing up in the 80’s was so much more fun, carefree and interesting. We spent our free time doing sports, hobbies, playing instruments and just being outdoors. We’d go roller-skating or just ride our bicycles and hang out and meet with friends. Generally speaking, children and teens were under less stress at school and could concentrate totally on their studies. We didn’t need hundreds of tutoring institutes in our city, because we really paid attention at school and weren’t distracted by the ever-present “pinging” of incoming messages or the ever-present fear of what the “pinging” was about. When we got home from school we had peace and quiet. It was a real treat to go to the movies maybe once a month, or watch TV in the evening with our parents. Sadly, a lot of this doesn’t seem to happen anymore. Family life is not what it used to be.

I miss the 80’s. The music was better. Growing up was easier. Life was better without all that “pinging,” stress and lack of privacy. In those days, high school was very much just like the musical – and even in that movie they didn’t have smartphones glued to their noses!

But we had fun anyway.

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A place at home, just for Mom

 

Transform your children’s playroom into mom’s private hobby room and office.

Adapting your home to suit your family’s needs is essential in order maintain some form of organization in your home. Having children, for instance, does present a few challenges in room planning. Young children with bedrooms upstairs are often out of sight when moms are working in the kitchen or cleaning downstairs. Privacy is one thing, but when you go upstairs and find your five-year-old having a jigsaw puzzle throwing contest with her best friend and coloring the wall with crayons – that’s maybe a good time to consider turning that extra room adjacent to the livingroom into a children’s playroom. This would allow you to keep an eye on the kids now and then, and have shelves and cabinets to store all their toys and games so that you won’t trip over them in the middle of the livingroom. The kids would be able to build that huge tower of building blocks and have plenty of room to play without everyone tripping and falling over toys. And most importantly, you can keep a watchful eye on what they’re doing and allow them some privacy to play with their friends.

It’s a wonderful idea until they grow into their teens and begin using the “children’s playroom” as their very own “junk” room where they simply dump their school books, jackets, shoes and everything else they don’t want to put away. One day you crawl over all that mess on the floor and open the closet to find a mountain of toys, dirty old socks, empty water bottles, books, old chocolate bar and candy wrappers and other “unidentifiable objects” crashing down on top of you. That’s when it’s time to make a change.

Mom’s rarely have the luxury of having a special room in the home where they can relax, work on their favorite hobby, read a book, perform their home office job or just simply surf on the internet undisturbed. So when the playroom becomes the junk room, it’s time to take the initiative and turn it into mom’s private space. Think back to the last time you had a room all to yourself? A place to read and keep your favorite books, do oil painting or crafts and have your very own private office space. It sounds great, doesn’t it? It’s heavenly!

Step one, everything has to be taken out of the closets and boxes. Sorting and boxing everything is the most time-consuming, so put plenty of time aside for this. The kid’s favorite toys and book collections that you can’t part with should be put into storage boxes and up into the attic to be passed down to future generations – if, whenever, or not, or just for our children as keepsakes. Then paint the walls with a fresh, light color and replace the old carpet with natural wood style laminated flooring. In our case, the carpeting was impossible to remove because it was glued to the floor, so we simply left it in and put the laminated floor panels over it – problem solved.

Plan an excursion to your local furniture or department store to purchase some great affordable bookcases, a small sofa, desk, lamps, a desk chair, knickknacks for the shelves and pictures for the walls. I bought everything for my special office at IKEA and it turned out great! What is it with men and their aversion to assembling furniture? Patience and teamwork is the key! Of course, it helps if you read the directions for assembly. It took us one week of our vacation time to complete the painting, put in the new flooring and assemble the bookcases and cupboards, but it was well worth the time and effort.

Now, it’s “mom’s private office,” my peaceful workplace, and it’s wonderful.

 

First Time in Rome

 

Everyone has their list of places they would like to visit at least once in their lifetime. In my case, Rome has always been at the top of mine. The history, architecture and art have always fascinated me for as long as I can remember, and now I can finally say, “I’ve been there!” Rome’s famous ancient buildings, archeological relics, museums and art definitely surpassed my expectations in spite of the mass of tourists within the city. And, as with all trips abroad, the motto is “learning by doing.” Or is it, “when in Rome do as the Romans do?”

Transportation

We flew into the Fiumicino International Airport and followed the signs to the train Station. We purchased tickets for the Leonardo Express train which is a great alternative when it comes to airport transfers. It takes you directly into the city’s main Termini Station and it is definitely worth the few extra bucks. It also gets you back to the airport during rush hour traffic without the stress of riding the bumpy crowded streets in an expensive taxi or airport shuttle that may not be able to get you to your destination on time. Don’t forget to validate your ticket at one of their validation machines at the station before boarding the train at Termini!

If you’re planning on seeing the sights on your own, then purchase the Roma City Pass. This ticket is valid for unlimited travel within Rome on all public transportation (not the Leonardo Express) for a specified number of days and allows you to visit some tourist sights or museums free of charge and also entitles you to reduced price admission. It also serves as a fast pass and allows you to bypass the very long waiting lines at popular attractions. You must remember, however, to obtain a free fast pass ticket at the admission ticket window since there is no entry without a ticket. It really saved us lots of time! We purchased our tickets at one of the tobacco shops just outside the station. Unfortunately, Rome’s public transportation services went on strike on the last day in the city and we lost one whole day of transportation on our four-day Roma City Pass ticket! We received no compensation or refund in spite of our complaints. The city was in traffic chaos that day and it was a real challenge getting a taxi to Termini so that we could catch the Leonardo Express back to the airport in time to catch our flight. I had read numerous warnings about thieves and pick-pockets in Rome and it was all I could do to keep street vendors and strangers at a distance. Beware of the street vendors at the station and near and around the tourist attractions. They can be extremely pushy and annoying. If it’s raining and you’re not carrying an umbrella then expect to be bombarded by street vendors pushing umbrellas in your face. We ended up buying one just so they’d leave us alone.

There are also at least a hundred automated multilingual ticket machines at Termini station and most of them are occupied at rush hour. It takes a few minutes to understand how they work the first time, but after a few tries it becomes second nature. The mass of people at the main station can also be a bit overwhelming. We decided to take a local bus to our hotel from Termini. The bus dated back to the “Middle Ages” and bumped and chugged along the damaged asphalt streets. The electronic display wasn’t working so we had no idea where we had stopped or when to exit the bus. The driver spoke no English and when we asked him a question, he just shrugged and pointed to the door. Great help! He had “exceptional” driving skills often maneuvering between the lanes, cars and hundreds of scooters, bicycles and pedestrians. He accelerated quickly and braked hard, shaking everyone like ice cubes in a shaker. The people standing in the bus had a difficult time keeping their balance and not flying through the bus or falling onto other passengers. We eventually did get off at the right place, thanks to a friendly Italian woman who spoke a few words of English.   I regretted having stepped on her foot at one of those sudden stops. Oops!

Accommodation

I thought it best to book a hotel outside of the city center and away from the crowds of tourists and heavy traffic. We stayed in a standard double room for four nights at the Hotel Regent which is situated on the outskirts of the city. The subway station was just down the street and just a few underground stops from the Piazza del Popolo. It is listed as a four star hotel based on Italian standards , however, three stars is more realistic. Our room was small with dark wood panelled walls and floors and dark bed covers. I wouldn’t give them brownie points for interior decor but it was clean enough and the hotel staff was friendly and spoke English. They were also very helpful arranging taxi and shuttle transportation for all their hotel guests on the day of the public transportation strike. Breakfast at the hotel was a typical European continental self-serve buffet. The breakfast dining room was in the cellar which meant that the large room had no windows. The biggest disappointment here was the coffee. There were a two automated coffee machines from which you could get a variety of coffee specialties which were made from powdered coffee mix. It wasn’t exactly real Italian coffee and I was really expecting a real Italian cappuccino. We didn’t eat dinner at the hotel because it was rather expensive and after the breakfast experience we really didn’t want to try. The greatest advantage of staying here was that there was a take-out pizzeria right across the street. We chose a variety of pizza slices and took it back to our room for a “pizza pig-out then pass out” dinner. By the time we left, we had eaten enough pizza to last us a few months! I’m still trying to shed the pounds.

In my opinion, if you’re satisfied having a clean bed to sleep in after an exhausting day of walking and sightseeing, then this hotel would be sufficient and affordable. If you require a bit more luxury and quality, then I’d recommend you book at least a five-star hotel where you’d feel more comfortable and hope that it lives up to your expectations.

 

Buying a custom fitted kitchen?

Part 3
Delivery and Installation

Finally! After weeks or months of waiting………..
The big truck loaded with all your fitted kitchen shelves, cupboards, drawers, doors, parts and appliances arrives at your front door. Hopefully that includes at least 2 qualified and experienced craftsmen to assemble it all for you. You will probably have to take an extra day off from work and sacrifice a vacation day to be home when your kitchen is being installed. It might even take more than just one day for it to be completed, so don’t be surprised if everything isn’t operational in just a few hours or after just one day. Don’t think for a minute that you can just go upstairs and sit down at your computer with a cup of coffee and leave the workmen alone to do all the work without any supervision. Unfortunately, that isn’t how it works. You will want to be sure all the parts delivered aren’t damaged and your freshly painted walls aren’t scratched, or worse, while the cupboards and counter top are being assembled. Upon completion of installation you will be asked to inspect the kitchen thoroughly. Please do so with a critical eye! Inspect everything inside and out. Make sure all the appliances function correctly and there are no scrapes or broken off corners on cupboards, doors and drawers. Check to see that they all open and close properly and that nothing has been overlooked or forgotten! If you are one of the lucky customers,………. the kitchen is in perfect condition and functions as it should.

Mistakes, however, can happen. Document and take photographs of everything that is not to your satisfaction. If in fact you do find some faults, it will definitely come in handy when you contact their customer service and make your complaint. Always follow-up any complaint made on the telephone with one in written form and document everything. The more detailed you are, the better! Especially, if there are big problems involved and the situation becomes one for which you must seek legal counsel.

Buying a new custom fitted kitchen?

Part 2 –
Out with the old 

Before your new kitchen can be installed you’ll need to figure out what to do with the old one. Of course, if your old kitchen is in really bad shape then I recommend the dumpster. On the other hand, if it’s still in good condition and can be dissembled without further damage then try reselling it. You would be surprised how much money you can get for a good used kitchen with functioning electric appliances. Place an ad in Ebay, the internet or even the local newspaper. If you can’t find a buyer, then surely a donation to the needy would be greatly appreciated. Be sure to set a fair price and insist on having the new buyers come and see your used kitchen in person. Insist on having them dissemble it themselves under your supervision. Your kitchen consists of hundreds of pieces so what better way for the new owners to learn how to reassemble it, right? It not only saves you from doing it yourself, it also relieves you of any fault for damages incurred at time of disassembly. Plan the date for the sale and removal wisely.  Be sure you leave enough time for all the necessary renovations before the new kitchen arrives. If you are doing the work on your own, leave a few extra days to be on the safe side. Efficiently organize appointments with painters and craftsmen. Be sure they are aware of the date their work must be finished and make sure they are finished on time!

Want a new custom fitted kitchen?

Be prepared for a rollercoaster ride.

If you’ve been living in your home for over 20 years, it’s inevitable that it will start showing signs of wear and tear. Since you spend a majority of your time in the kitchen, it’s definitely the room that deserves the most attention. You’ve probably already renovated every room in the house numerous times and have left the kitchen for last. Why ? Well, not because it couldn’t be done, but probably because a new kitchen involves a lot of planning, time, money and energy.

Part 1 –
The Planning and design

Planning a new fitted kitchen can actually be lots of fun, especially if you’re the kind of person that is creative and generally enjoys designing and remodeling. But make sure you have lots of time and patience. There are hundreds of custom kitchen sales galleries and stores in your immediate area, however, finding the right one won’t be easy. Make sure you ask friends, family and acquaintances for recommendations based on their personal experiences with kitchen designers, their in-house installation specialists, professional craftsmen and customer service. Know what you must have and what you don’t need! Take inventory of your kitchen ware and supplies so that you know how much storage space you’ll require. Research color schemes and suitable materials for the kitchen cabinets and counters. Go online and look at different kitchen wall colors and designs too. When viewing actual models of kitchens on site, make sure you open all the drawers and cabinets and take a closer look at how well the kitchens are assembled. Assess the quality of the product and material. If you can’t afford a custom crafted kitchen made of pure hardwood, be very critical of the quality of pressed wood countertops and cupboard materials. Inspect everything! Take your kitchen measurements or blue-prints and go to at least 3 to 5 kitchen studios for extensive planning and estimates. You’ll be surprised at how different their ideas and prices can be. Where one kitchen designer might spend hours with you planning something great, another may not invest as much time or effort into the process. I had one kitchen planner ask me for pictures of my old kitchen and without much effort on his part, he told me that was the best option – he then drew up (literally, by hand) a plan for a new kitchen that looked just like my old one! Another fitted kitchen designer worked with me for over a week creating numerous kitchen designs suitable for our home using modern technology! And yes, for no extra charge.

To be continued…..